Grace Chatting

Hi folks. Sincere apologies for the delay in posting… I won’t bore you with my excuses, but you will have noticed from my last posts, that I have been very preoccupied with launching Relationship Academy, so if you are still interested in relationship matters, head on over to the new Blog at www.relationshipacademy.co.uk.

It has been a dilemma for me as I am so interested in relationship matters, but as a Personal Coach and a Therapist, I am also very engaged with matters relating to Personal Development and Health and Well Being.

I have decided to keep my Grace Chatting Blog to write about all the personal development and inspirational stuff I find so interesting , including my own journey, and The Barefoot Therapist blog  to cover all kinds of therapeutic matters, so check out www.thebaefoottherapist.co.uk Let me know what topics you want to know about and I shall be happy to oblige.

My plan is that on all three of these blogs, I can write about each of my areas of interest without it being a mishmash, and I hope you will all bear with me as I make this transition.

I actually feel very excited about the changes I’m making because there are so many aspects of life that I am grabbed by daily, but I felt very restricted to writing about relationships. Watch this space!

written by Grace \\ tags: Relationships; Inspiration; Therapy; Personal Development

At long last! The Relationship academy will officially launch on 1 June 2012.

http://relationshipacademy.co.uk

The Story So Far

I first got the idea of a Relationship Academy back in the 1990s when I saw quite a number of divorced and separated couples for Family Mediation, as they divided up their property and assets. Often this would be accompanied by a great deal of hostility amongst the parties concerned; but by far the most difficult ones for me were those where it was obvious that they still cared for each other.

I thought it so sad that here was a family which had split up when perhaps with the right intervention they may have been able to restore their relationship or marriage. Many of them had gone to seek couple counselling with various agencies but without success. I wasn’t sure what the answer was myself, because I wasn’t having as much success as I would have wished for with couples whom I saw for counselling.

Breakthrough

Alan and I went off to work at our coaching centre in Spain and during that time I offormed a view that perhaps a coaching approach was what would work best with couples. I began to have 3-4 hour Breakthrough sessions with couples  and almost immediately the outcomes were much better, and couples really enjoyed the process. The whole business was so much more positive for all of us. Increasingly I would hear people say “Why don’t they teach this in schools?”  Yeah… why don’t they? I thought.

Why don’t they teach this at school?

We all know that schools were set up to meet the needs of commerce and industry… not people. I seriously considered where DO people learn about relationships? After all we can learn to drive, ski, cook, speak different languages etc., but where do you go to learn about relationships? The obvious answer is, from their parents, but often this is not a good idea. It’s a bit like installing windows 95 on your computer and wondering why it doesn’t work very well. Likewise, even if our parents had a good relationship, we live in an entirely different world now than they did.

Fractured Families

Perhaps one of the biggest reasons that prompted me to start the Relationship Academy is the fact that many adults today (my children amongst them) have grown up in single parent households and that figure is now more than 60% of children are growing up with no role model or first hand experience of an exclusive committed couple relationship. In my view this puts these children at a disadvantage as far as having a successful relationship is concerned. We know that when people feel competent they feel more confident, and when they they feel more confident they become more competent. Somehow we need to find a way to raise people’s competence in relating skills.

My Vision

I considered how these young people and future generations might be able to learn this stuff and decided that the fairly recent advances in technology is the answer… online.What I want to do is to firstly, stem the flow of family breakdown by targeting youngish parents   and secondly, to provide some psycho-education to young people through a series of short experiential webinars. I think that providing low/no cost webinars to schools to access might be a way of reaching a wider audience.

Feedback

I would very much welcome your feedback. It has been a steep learning curve for me because I had difficulty finding techies who really understood what I wanted to do so I set about learning how to set it all up myself from scratch. It is very tempting to keep re-recording my webinars as I improve how I do them but I would never be finished at that rate… so Relationship Academy will launch on 1 June 2012.

Free Webinar Series

This link will take you through to the Free webinar series;Click Here

Love well,

     Grace

written by Grace \\ tags: Divorce, family breakdown, fractured families, marriage, relationshipacademy, Relationships

Introducing….Magnetizing the Love of Your Life: 8 Steps to Your Beloved’s Arms Global Virtual Event!

Watch and Listen to Julie-Anne Shapiro sing the event theme song: “Let’s Talk About Love” and be inspired by scenes from her own wedding,

If you are fed up with spending weekends alone, this event is not to be missed… and it is Free!

40 of the world’s leading love and relationship experts (including myself  on 26 April) will reveal the stories, practices, tools and tips for attracting the person that is waiting for YOU.
 
Here’s a glimpse of what they’ll be sharing:
 
• Their own challenges in love and relationship and how they overcame them and magnetized the love of their life and how you can do this too
 
• The keys to becoming irresistible to your soul mate and having an amazing relationship unlike anything you have previously known
 
• How to create a conscious, spiritual partnership where your values and visions are deeply aligned
 
• How to gain freedom from all of the past hurts, disappointments and obstacles to love so that you can have the love and connection you yearn for
 
I invite you to take this step right now, not only for yourself but for the person who is sitting there waiting for you too.
 
Click here http://bit.ly/Hy8yEQ to learn more and to receive instant access and receive a FREE copy of Julie-Anne’s E-book

“6 Things You Can Do RIGHT NOW to Magnetize Love.”

      With Love

     Grace Chatting
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written by Grace \\ tags: Magnetizing the love of your life;Julie-Anne Shapiro;Arielle Ford;Love;Marriage;Soulmate;Grace Chatting

I want to introduce all my readers to EFT and the idea of using it (Emotional Freedom Technique) as a marriage and relationship enhancing tool or skill. Alan and I have routinely practiced EFT together over the years with great personal benefits. We also use it professionally, mostly  with quite amazing results.

I discovered EFT about 15 years ago when I downloaded Gary Craig’s free online manual http://www.emofree.com and devoured all his DVDs on the subject. EFT operates on the same principles as Acupuncture, but without the needles, and in my view it is one of the most simple and profound, literally life changing techniques.

In my view, many of our chronic physical and emotional pain and difficulties have their roots in emotion generated during our early years, often preverbal or even pre-natal. EFT is great for clearing these. This video gives a basic explanation.

As you can see from the video, EFT is used for many serious physical as well as emotional conditions. What people don’t generally recognise is that when they settle into a couple relationship, all their unconscious hurts and emotional pain gets triggered by the people we love simply because we love them and are much more sensitive to them and what they say and do, than to other people. We are attached to them, and all our emotional issues around early attachment figures such as parents, tend to get projected onto our partner without us realising we are doing that.

The beauty of EFT is that it doesn’t require us to get into a great deal of deep discussion about the issues, but just the feeling, which is then quite quickly dissolved, usually permanently, and it is something which couples can be taught quickly and easily.

The trouble is many people feel self conscious or uncomfortable, because the tapping on acupressure points seems a little strange. Not nearly so strange as finishing up with chronic illnesses or divorce!

Do yourself a favour and check it out today.

  Love well,

         Grace

written by Grace \\ tags: Marriage;Gary Craig;EFT;Emotional Freedom Technique;

Yes, it’s leap year again. In ten days time that window of opportunity when women can ask their man to marry them will come around again. Sounds fairly innocuous, but ladies, think twice!Research carried out by the University of Denver indicates that this may not be such a good idea

.It seems that men who move in with their girlfriend without proposing to them beforehand, are less likely to be committed to any subsequent marriage. Men need to decide to commit to marriage rather than slide into it.

The research shows a difference between men and women insofar as women are generally committed when they move in with their boyfriend whereas men are not committed until they actually make that decision to get married.

Women assume they are both equally committed because they live together, but this is not always so. I have had quite a number of men clients who have been in live in relationships for years and who see it as living with their girlfriends, which is not the same level of commitment they’d feel if she was his wife. They just never made that decision. Women are usually in for the long haul and assume he is too.

It can seem a romantic gesture on a woman’s part to pop the question, but it is probably worth paying attention to the research findings. If you really  want to be married to him, then perhaps it is wiser to simply raise the subject and have an adult to adult conversation about his intentions and both your future plans. 

    Love well,

       Grace

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