Dec 01

Get My FREE E-Book “Mend It Don’t End It” NOW

3D Book 03bThis is just a short post to highlight to you that we are now in the time of year when most couples who have been considering divorce go to a solicitor and make an application.

I have written a book outlining a 10 step process which couples can follow to turn their troubled marriage or partnership around, and I have decided to give it away.

If you would like to get a free digital copy now, click the following link which will take you to my other site Relationship Academy, and you will be able to access a free download

 http://relationshipacademy.co.uk/thinking-of-divorce-mend-it-dont-end-it/

Please feel free to pass this link on to anyone who may be having relationship problems, it could save a family from breaking up.

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May 04

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At long last! The Relationship academy will officially launch on 1 June 2012.

http://relationshipacademy.co.uk

The Story So Far

I first got the idea of a Relationship Academy back in the 1990s when I saw quite a number of divorced and separated couples for Family Mediation, as they divided up their property and assets. Often this would be accompanied by a great deal of hostility amongst the parties concerned; but by far the most difficult ones for me were those where it wasproblems in relationships obvious that they still cared for each other.

I thought it so sad that here was a family which had split up when perhaps with the right intervention they may have been able to restore their relationship or marriage. Many of them had gone to seek couple counselling with various agencies but without success. I wasn’t sure what the answer was myself, because I wasn’t having as much success as I would have wished for with couples whom I saw for counselling.

Breakthrough

Alan and I went off to work at our coaching centre in Spain and during that time I ofBreakthroughformed a view that perhaps a coaching approach was what would work best with couples. I began to have 3-4 hour Breakthrough sessions with couples  and almost immediately the outcomes were much better, and couples really enjoyed the process. The whole business was so much more positive for all of us. Increasingly I would hear people say “Why don’t they teach this in schools?”  Yeah… why don’t they? I thought.

Why don’t they teach this at school?

We all know that schools were set up to meet the needs of commerce and industry… not people. I seriously considered where DO people learn about relationships? After all we can learn to drive, ski, cook, speak different languages etc., but where do you go to learn about relationships? The obvious answer is, from their parents, but often this is not a good idea. It’s a bit like installing windows 95 on your computer and wondering why it doesn’t work very well. Likewise, even if our parents had a good relationship, we live in an entirely different world now than they did.

Fractured Families

Perhaps one of the biggest reasons that prompted me to start the Relationship Academy is the fact that many adults today (my children amongst them) have grown up in single parent households and that figure is now more than 60% of children are groinfinity loopwing up with no role model or first hand experience of an exclusive committed couple relationship. In my view this puts these children at a disadvantage as far as having a successful relationship is concerned. We know that when people feel competent they feel more confident, and when they they feel more confident they become more competent. Somehow we need to find a way to raise people’s competence in relating skills.

My Vision

I considered how these young people and future generations might be able to learn this stuff and decided that the fairly recent advances in technology is the answer… online.What I want to do is to firstly, stem the flow of family breakdown by targeting youngish parents   and secondly, to provide some psycho-education to young people through a series of short experiential webinars. I think that providing low/no cost webinars to schools to access might be a way of reaching a wider audience.

Feedback

I would very much welcome your feedback. It has been a steep learning curve for me because I had difficulty finding techies who really understood what I wanted to do so I set about learning how to set it all up myself from scratch. It is very tempting to keep re-recording my webinars as I improve how I do them but I would never be finished at that rate… so Relationship Academy will launch on 1 June 2012.

Free Webinar Series

This link will take you through to the Free webinar series;Click Here

Love well,

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Apr 13

Introducing….Magnetizing the Love of Your Life: 8 Steps to Your Beloved’s Arms Global Virtual Event!

Watch and Listen to Julie-Anne Shapiro sing the event theme song: “Let’s Talk About Love” and be inspired by scenes from her own wedding,

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If you are fed up with spending weekends alone, this event is not to be missed… and it is Free!

40 of the world’s leading love and relationship experts (including myself  on 26 April) will reveal the stories, practices, tools and tips for attracting the person that is waiting for YOU.
 
Here’s a glimpse of what they’ll be sharing:
 
• Their own challenges in love and relationship and how they overcame them and magnetized the love of their life and how you can do this too
 
• The keys to becoming irresistible to your soul mate and having an amazing relationship unlike anything you have previously known
 
• How to create a conscious, spiritual partnership where your values and visions are deeply aligned
 
• How to gain freedom from all of the past hurts, disappointments and obstacles to love so that you can have the love and connection you yearn for
 
I invite you to take this step right now, not only for yourself but for the person who is sitting there waiting for you too.
 
Click here http://bit.ly/Hy8yEQ to learn more and to receive instant access and receive a FREE copy of Julie-Anne’s
E-book

“6 Things You Can Do RIGHT NOW to Magnetize Love.”

      With Love

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Jan 31

 

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One of the great Relationship Masters, John Gottman and his wife did an extensive study of what made  marriage relationships successful; looking at those couples who stayed together and made their marriages work.

They found that they could predict with 96% accuracy which couples would break up. The looked for patterns that separated the Masters from the Disasters.

The Disasters had these traits in common, they blamed each other and became defensive, and presented themselves as a Victim. They were critical of their partner whilst seeing themselves as superior and talked down to the other in a contemptuous way, or they would Stonewall them, not speaking to them for days at a time..

The Masters on the other hand, took responsibility for their own behaviours

One of the big differences was the Masters had the ability to repair the relationship; to say they were sorry and wanted to make things better. They wanted to maintain friendship with each other, and they were also receptive to the other partners repair attempts.

Gottman called the four most damaging habits, the four horsemen of the apocalypse;

  • Criticism
  • Contempt
  • Defensiveness
  • Stonewalling

If any of these are present in your relationship, know that it will not last unless you seriously set about eliminating these behaviours today!

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Jan 29

 

 

Many relationships founder on the rocks of unhelpful habits John Assaraf (of The Secret fame) explains why it is so difficult to change these habits that get hardwired in our brains.We are genetically conditioned to do this, but we can break these patterns by having the right knowledge and using it in the right order.

John also explains how meditation can help with this process and how it takes up to 90 to completely change these habits, but it can be done!

This is why I urge couples whose marriages may be breaking down, to spend 90 days working with new knowledge and skills which can transform their relationship.

Watch out for the launch of Relationship Academy bringing you all the knowledge and information you need to transform your relationships.

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