Nov 10

I am a great fan of Brendon Burchard, so I was really intrigued when I saw the title of this video..  I had never considered Happiness as uncomfortable, but he explains it all beautifully as involving 5 distinct elements.

Change

To be happy you need to be growing, and that involves Change. I see many clients who are unhappy with their lives but they don’t want to have to change anything! Many people remain in the same job, the same house, or maintain the same lifestyle as a way of staying safe because life is predictable and secure that way, but it leads to a Groundhog Day kind of life. Ask yourself, are you willing to grow and change? When the caterpillar is changing to a chrysalis it feels like its whole world has come to an end, when in fact it is a necessary stage in becoming a beautiful butterfly. caterpillar

Challenge

Everyone needs to have worthwhile meaningful challenges to stretch them in some way, otherwise you won’t grow. Every year I set a new challenge for my self; one year it was learning to sail, another year  it was doing a fire walk with Anthony Robbins. Most years I do at least one significant educational course so that I am constantly developing new skills, learning new things, meeting new people and having fun!. What about you? What new challenges can you set for yourself in 2013?

Creative Expression

We are all part of a collective, but at the same time, we are unique. Unfortunately the socialisation process and our education system can often shape us into having a herd or pack mentality. We finish up being overly left brained rational, logical and analytical in how we approach our lives and overlook our creative side. Often this is also because, creative expression involves time. For example, learning to play a musical instrument, or develop a new skill such as writing or painting. We need to be willing to give a certain amount of time to being creative. The reward is that we automatically become happier with ourselves.

Connection

Quantum Physics shows us that we are all in fact interconnected but for the majority of people they have no sense of that connection and in face feel very much alone and lonely, with no sense of belonging to the larger group. As Gandhi says, “Be the change that you want to see in the world”. Reach out to others who may be feeling as you do. Of course you may be reluctant to do that because of a fear of rejection, but in reality, most people don’t reject you. Is it possible for you to begin smiling more at the people you see in your day to day life? smiley face

Contribution

As Anthony Robbins points out in his Needs Psychology, we all have a need to make a contribution beyond ourselves whether we realise it or not. We need to feel that we make a difference, that our being here matters, and we can all do that if we choose. Can you decide that you will do at least one kind act of service every day? Try it and see the difference it makes to you and to others.

Consciousness

Brendon doesn’t mention this one, but I do. To be really happy, I believe you have to shift from living your life Unconsciously, just wishing and hoping that happiness will somehow drop from on high, or thinking you are the only one to whom S**t happens. You need to literally switch on to life and recognise that, as Abraham Lincoln says, “Most folk are as happy as they make up their minds to be”. We are on this Earth for a purpose, what is yours?

Now have a look at Brendon’s video and be inspired

The Discomfort of Happiness

Live, Love, Laugh and Be Happy,

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Aug 14

Just in case you didn’t realise that I now have a new website for all things to do with Dating, Love, Marriage, Relationships and Divorce, here is the link;

http://www.relationshipacademy.co.uk/blog

Head over there now and access 3 Free videos

Live,love,laugh and be happy,

Grace

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Jul 14

ChattingPortraits017-1Hi folks. Sincere apologies for the delay in posting… I won’t bore you with my excuses, but you will have noticed from my last posts, that I have been very preoccupied with launching Relationship Academy, so if you are still interested in relationship matters, head on over to the new Blog at www.relationshipacademy.co.uk.

It has been a dilemma for me as I am so interested in relationship matters, but as a Personal Coach and a Therapist, I am also very engaged with matters relating to Personal Development and Health and Well Being.

I have decided to keep my Grace Chatting Blog to write about all the personal development and inspirational stuff I find so interesting , including my own journey, and The Barefoot Therapist blog  to cover all kinds of therapeutic matters, so check out www.thebaefoottherapist.co.uk Let me know what topics you want to know about and I shall be happy to oblige.

My plan is that on all three of these blogs, I can write about each of my areas of interest without it being a mishmash, and I hope you will all bear with me as I make this transition.

I actually feel very excited about the changes I’m making because there are so many aspects of life that I am grabbed by daily, but I felt very restricted to writing about relationships. Watch this space! Smile

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Apr 13

Introducing….Magnetizing the Love of Your Life: 8 Steps to Your Beloved’s Arms Global Virtual Event!

Watch and Listen to Julie-Anne Shapiro sing the event theme song: “Let’s Talk About Love” and be inspired by scenes from her own wedding,

Julie-Anne Shapiro

 

If you are fed up with spending weekends alone, this event is not to be missed… and it is Free!

40 of the world’s leading love and relationship experts (including myself  on 26 April) will reveal the stories, practices, tools and tips for attracting the person that is waiting for YOU.
 
Here’s a glimpse of what they’ll be sharing:
 
• Their own challenges in love and relationship and how they overcame them and magnetized the love of their life and how you can do this too
 
• The keys to becoming irresistible to your soul mate and having an amazing relationship unlike anything you have previously known
 
• How to create a conscious, spiritual partnership where your values and visions are deeply aligned
 
• How to gain freedom from all of the past hurts, disappointments and obstacles to love so that you can have the love and connection you yearn for
 
I invite you to take this step right now, not only for yourself but for the person who is sitting there waiting for you too.
 
Click here http://bit.ly/Hy8yEQ to learn more and to receive instant access and receive a FREE copy of Julie-Anne’s
E-book

“6 Things You Can Do RIGHT NOW to Magnetize Love.”

      With Love

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Feb 26

I want to introduce all my readers to EFT and the idea of using it (Emotional Freedom Technique) as a marriage and relationship enhancing tool or skill. Alan and I have routinely practiced EFT together over the years with great personal benefits. We also use it professionally, mostly  with quite amazing results.

I discovered EFT about 15 years ago when I downloaded Gary Craig’s free online manual http://www.emofree.com and devoured all his DVDs on the subject. EFT operates on the same principles as Acupuncture, but without the needles, and in my view it is one of the most simple and profound, literally life changing techniques.

Gary Craig and EFT

In my view, many of our chronic physical and emotional pain and difficulties have their roots in emotion generated during our early years, often preverbal or even pre-natal. EFT is great for clearing these. This video gives a basic explanation.

As you can see from the video, EFT is used for many serious physical as well as emotional conditions. What people don’t generally recognise is that when they settle into a couple relationship, all their unconscious hurts and emotional pain gets triggered by the people we love simply because we love them and are much more sensitive to them and what they say and do, than to other people. We are attached to them, and all our emotional issues around early attachment figures such as parents, tend to get projected onto our partner without us realising we are doing that.

The beauty of EFT is that it doesn’t require us to get into a great deal of deep discussion about the issues, but just the feeling, which is then quite quickly dissolved, usually permanently, and it is something which couples can be taught quickly and easily.

The trouble is many people feel self conscious or uncomfortable, because the tapping on acupressure points seems a little strange. Not nearly so strange as finishing up with chronic illnesses or divorce!

Do yourself a favour and check it out today.

  Love well,

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         Grace

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