Grace Chatting

I want to introduce all my readers to EFT and the idea of using it (Emotional Freedom Technique) as a marriage and relationship enhancing tool or skill. Alan and I have routinely practiced EFT together over the years with great personal benefits. We also use it professionally, mostly  with quite amazing results.

I discovered EFT about 15 years ago when I downloaded Gary Craig’s free online manual http://www.emofree.com and devoured all his DVDs on the subject. EFT operates on the same principles as Acupuncture, but without the needles, and in my view it is one of the most simple and profound, literally life changing techniques.

In my view, many of our chronic physical and emotional pain and difficulties have their roots in emotion generated during our early years, often preverbal or even pre-natal. EFT is great for clearing these. This video gives a basic explanation.

As you can see from the video, EFT is used for many serious physical as well as emotional conditions. What people don’t generally recognise is that when they settle into a couple relationship, all their unconscious hurts and emotional pain gets triggered by the people we love simply because we love them and are much more sensitive to them and what they say and do, than to other people. We are attached to them, and all our emotional issues around early attachment figures such as parents, tend to get projected onto our partner without us realising we are doing that.

The beauty of EFT is that it doesn’t require us to get into a great deal of deep discussion about the issues, but just the feeling, which is then quite quickly dissolved, usually permanently, and it is something which couples can be taught quickly and easily.

The trouble is many people feel self conscious or uncomfortable, because the tapping on acupressure points seems a little strange. Not nearly so strange as finishing up with chronic illnesses or divorce!

Do yourself a favour and check it out today.

  Love well,

         Grace

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Yes, it’s leap year again. In ten days time that window of opportunity when women can ask their man to marry them will come around again. Sounds fairly innocuous, but ladies, think twice!Research carried out by the University of Denver indicates that this may not be such a good idea

.It seems that men who move in with their girlfriend without proposing to them beforehand, are less likely to be committed to any subsequent marriage. Men need to decide to commit to marriage rather than slide into it.

The research shows a difference between men and women insofar as women are generally committed when they move in with their boyfriend whereas men are not committed until they actually make that decision to get married.

Women assume they are both equally committed because they live together, but this is not always so. I have had quite a number of men clients who have been in live in relationships for years and who see it as living with their girlfriends, which is not the same level of commitment they’d feel if she was his wife. They just never made that decision. Women are usually in for the long haul and assume he is too.

It can seem a romantic gesture on a woman’s part to pop the question, but it is probably worth paying attention to the research findings. If you really  want to be married to him, then perhaps it is wiser to simply raise the subject and have an adult to adult conversation about his intentions and both your future plans. 

    Love well,

       Grace

 

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