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By Grace Chatting

Hopefully you now have a solid understanding of the way your thoughts, beliefs and emotions operate with the Law of Attraction to attract certain kinds of people and events into your life, and how relationships with others  mirror your relationship with yourself. You also know the importance of being whole and happy on your own, as well as the importance of being the person your perfect partner would want to be with. Finally, you’ve now got some clear ideas of things you can do to help bring him or her into your life.

Would your new partner be central or peripheral?

But, what will you do when he or she gets here? Is there room for this new person in your life? I see people whose work takes them out of the country a lot, and others who keep horses, with all the time, money and energy resources these take. Is there time for a partner to be central in your life, or would they be add-ons to your work and animals?

Let’s face it; new relationships take some adjustment before you settle into a comfortable routine. If your life circumstances are rigid and restricted, you may have a difficult time shifting them to make room for the addition of a new relationship.

Begin the process NOW so your perfect partner will ease into your life without a hitch. I have seen many couples whose lives and relationships become totally derailed by their OVER attachment to animals. What seems acceptable to another animal lover becomes a serious issue when the couple want to start a family and disproportionate amounts of time, energy and money are spent on one persons attachment.

Important Considerations

There are 3 main areas you should give some attention to:

Time. Do you have time for a committed relationship? Do you work a lot, or have other demands on your time?

One thing that many of us do when we get involved in a new relationship is drop everything else. It’s understandable because when we’re in love we feel so happy that we don’t want that feeling to end. So we might neglect our friends and family members, or even our work or other obligations for awhile, which isn’t healthy.

Try to avoid this by instead making room in your schedule for your perfect partner. When he or she arrives, how much time will you spend together? How much time do your other obligations require?

You don’t have to get too detailed with this, but do your best to make room in your schedule for the new relationship you’re attracting. When you do, you create a space for it to arrive in your life!

Physical surroundings. The same thing goes for your physical surroundings. Is the passenger seat of your car loaded with so much stuff that no one else can sit there? Is your home crammed to the ceilings with your own belongings with little room for someone else’s belongings?

Go through the same process of making room for your perfect partner in your physical surroundings as you did with your schedule, and you’ll create a space for him or her to become part of your life.

Go from room to room in your home and look at it through the eyes of a potential partner. What do you see that needs to be de-cluttered or changed? Make an action plan and get cracking.

Emotional. Finally, are you emotionally ready to welcome your perfect partner into your life? You may think you are, but I want you to have a clear picture of what it will be like to share your life with another person.

Are you ready to connect intimately and communicate deeply with another? Are you ready to open your heart and trust another person?These are serious questions that require an unreserved “Yes”

If not, you will find a way to sabotage any new relationship that enters your life. To avoid this, be sure to prepare and strengthen yourself emotionally beforehand. One good way to do this is by visualizing yourself feeling confident and strong from within as you open your heart and share your life with another person. This will make a huge difference.

These three areas are key, but the point is to create a space in all areas of your life so when your perfect partner comes along he or she will fit right in!

My next post will cover another important part of the puzzle, living from your perfect partnership. Be sure not to miss that one because it’s something that can make all the difference in attracting the relationship you want!

If you are interested in attending a workshop or residential week or weekend course on Relationships, in the UK or in Spain please contact me.

      Be Happy

                  Grace

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www.thebarefoottherapist.co.uk

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By Grace Chatting

Are you feeling clearer about the Law of Attraction and the type of person you need to be in order to attract more meaningful relationships?

I want to say  more about the things you can do to actually begin attracting a partner. And the very first step is to STOP TRYING !

What??? I hear you say. Bear with me; it actually makes sense when you think about it.

The more you obsess about finding your perfect partner, the stronger message of “need” you send to the universe. You’ll enter every social situation with the expectation of meeting “The One,” and if it doesn’t happen you’ll feel disappointed, which only sends more negative energy to the universe!

 Detach

Instead, you have to be willing to let go of your expectations to meet Mr. or Ms. Right. You need to DETACH from how and when it all comes about.

That’s not easy to do, I know, but it’s necessary because otherwise you continue to convey neediness and desperation to the universe – which is what you DON’T want.

Rather than walking into every situation with the expectation of meeting “The One,” make it your mission to simply enjoy meeting interesting people. Think of them as friends only, not potential love matches. If sparks happen to fly between you and one of those people, great! See where it might lead. But don’t EXPECT to have a match.

Make sense?

Create possibilities

Another important thing to do is create openings for potential partnerships to form. After all, you want to make it more likely that your perfect partner will find you, right? That means engaging in activities that your potential partner would also be likely to engage in.

Now, you don’t have to go nuts with this and join dozens of clubs or exhaust yourself with excessive social activities. Your perfect partner can find you anywhere, really. But do what you can to increase the likelihood, within reason.

Now, is it possible to attract someone SPECIFIC with the Law of Attraction?

I get this question a lot, and my answer is always the same: Yes and No; ONLY if that person feels attracted to you too! If he or she does not want to be with you, you will be wasting your time by trying to force something that isn’t going to happen. Please don’t do that to yourself.

If you have feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same about you; or if you’ve broken up with someone who does not want to get back together with you – you MUST find a way to let them go. You cannot use the Law of Attraction to force them to want you. You just can’t.

Instead, be willing to believe that there is someone BETTER for you out there; someone who has many of the same traits as this other person, but who will be an even better match for you.

Watch out for my next post on making room in your life for a life partner.

       Be Happy

                    Grace

www.thebarefoottherapist.co.uk

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By Grace Chatting

In my last post I discussed the Law of Attraction and the importance of being whole and happy   yourself, before your perfect partner shows up, rather than relying on another person to make you feel complete. If you have taken that on board, that’s a powerful start, but there are also other things you can do to boost the likelihood of attracting the type of partner you want.

Characteristics of your ideal partner

When I am coaching reluctant singles, I encourage them to make a detailed list of the qualities and traits they’d like their perfect partner to have. You will see how it is useful if you do the same.

What do you imagine he or she will look like? What type of personality will he or she have? What aspirations or ambitions for the future will he or she have? What values do they hold, and what field of work are they likely to be in?

Use as much detail as you can, covering everything from career to personality, spiritual beliefs, values, lifestyle, physical appearance and beyond.

When you’ve finished, read over the list. Did you include everything you want your perfect partner to have? How about how they are with money, and habits such as drinking or smoking? What about how they like to spend time?

How do you fit?

Now comes the fun part. Go back over that list and check off any of the traits and descriptions that fit YOU.

Do you have the same type of spiritual beliefs you want your partner to have? Do you have the same type of personality? Do you have the same level of goals and ambitions in life?

Don’t worry if you don’t have ALL the traits – that’s not the point of this exercise. Instead, notice how many you do have, compared to how many you don’t. Then ask yourself this question:

Would I be the perfect partner for this person I want to attract?

Obviously, you and your partner are two separate people, so there will be differences in your personalities and goals. But if the differences are too great, what makes you think your perfect partner would be attracted to someone they have almost nothing in common with?

If the traits and qualities on your list are important to you, you need to start developing them within yourself first!

Then when your perfect partner arrives on the scene, he or she will quickly recognize a kindred soul – and sparks are much more likely to fly. There are other factors involved, of course. But BEING the perfect partner for your perfect partner is a very big part of it.

In my next post I will get into the nitty-gritty of actually attracting your perfect partner, so be sure to be ready by creating the profile of your perfect partner and then see what you need to change.

If you are interested in attending a workshop or residential week or weekend course on Relationships, in the UK or in Spain please contact me.

                     Grace

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www.thebarefoottherapist.co.uk

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By Grace Chatting

 I hope you have been having some insights about how the law of attraction affects your relationships with others (or the lack of relationships you thought you wanted)?

Perhaps you’re beginning to see how your own thoughts, feelings and beliefs have attracted certain kinds of people into your life – and distanced other kinds of people.

Importance of a good relationship with yourself

More importantly, you now understand how powerful and significant your relationship with yourself is when it comes to the treatment you receive from others.

If I had a penny for every person who expected a romantic relationship to make them happy and whole, I’d be a millionaire! Logically, you probably realise that no one else can make you “whole,” because you are already whole.

Yet, if you still haven’t found your “soul mate,” you may feel empty somehow, like something is missing. That sense of emptiness is what usually causes people to search for the love of their life, the missing connection that will finally make them feel “whole.” You’ve heard the expression, “two halves of a whole,”?

That is a complete myth. Pardon my bluntness. I blame the movies and fairytales for encouraging people to believe that we have to be locked in a passionate embrace to feel like our lives are complete.

You do not need a relationship to be whole

Don’t get me wrong, I think romance is wonderful! Love and passion are great, and  certainly can enhance your happiness. But you do NOT need a passionate love affair in order to feel like your life is joyful, meaningful and happy, although I understand how you might feel that way.

I lived on my own for 10 years after my first marriage ended in divorce. For a few years I felt sad and lonely, wishing I had someone to care for me. Then I started to become friends with myself, to love myself, to care for myself.  I truly arrived at a stage of being quite happy with me.

I no longer believed I needed a relationship to be happy, I was already happy, and then I met Alan. He had gone through a similar process, so we were two happy and whole people ready to share our lives with each other. NOT expecting that the other was going to make us happy. We were already happy and whole.

The power of limiting beliefs

Do you know what really causes that feeling of incompleteness you sometimes feel? It’s your perception and belief that you must be involved in a relationship to feel complete. That is so not true.

If you persist in believing that you won’t be whole until you are in a relationship with someone, that is your constant state; waiting for someone to make you happy.

The problem with doing this is that you place an awful lot of pressure on any potential partner who enters your life. Even if you don’t say it, they can sense that you are depending on THEM to make you feel whole and happy. That’s not really their job, is it? It’s yours!

In order to attract the love of your life, you need to be whole and happy ALREADY – before they enter the picture.

You attract what you send out

There’s a good reason for this. Whenever you try to bring something into your life with the Law of Attraction, your emotional frequency emits the signal of what you want to the universe. When you feel like you desperately “need” something in order to be happy and whole, you are emitting the reality of “neediness,” which will attract more of the same.

On the other hand, when you emit a frequency of happiness and fulfilment about your life, you attract other whole, happy people – including one that seeks a life partner too.

So, be sure to do whatever you can to fill yourself up from within! Do things you love. Create a life you love, even if Mr. or Ms. Right hasn’t shown up yet. When he/she does, you’ll want to be ready to welcome him/her with open arms!

My next post will be about how you can become the perfect partner.

If you are interested in attending a workshop or residential week or weekend course on Relationships, in the UK or in Spain please contact me.

        Be Happy

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By Grace Chatting

Now that you understand how the Law of Attraction is activated by your thoughts, emotions and beliefs, you may be asking yourself what on earth you must have been thinking to have attracted some of your previous or current relationships.

Remember, it’s usually done by default, so don’t get too down on yourself about it.

Your relationship with others

Believe it or not, ALL of your relationships are simply a reflection of your relationship with yourself. Have you ever noticed a correlation between the way other people treat you and the way you treat yourself?

Think about it for a minute.

If you constantly find yourself surrounded by people who disrespect you or mistreat you, think about how you treat yourself on a regular basis. Are you hard on yourself when you make mistakes? Do you demand a lot from yourself? Do you push yourself harder than you need to, or neglect nurturing and caring for yourself?

If most of the people in your life don’t seem to care about you or don’t seem to really love you, ask yourself if that is true of your relationship with yourself too.

Gaining insight

Take a few minutes to jot down some insights about your relationships with others. Include your family members, spouse (or ex-spouses or partners), children, friends, co-workers, colleagues, and so on.

Write down the ways they usually relate to you, and then compare those actions and attitudes with the way you usually treat yourself.

I bet you’ll be surprised to see a lot of correlations there!

Change it!

Now, take a few minutes to think about how you’d LIKE to be treated. What would you like your relationships to be like? How would you like others to treat you?

And, the most important question: Are you willing to start treating yourself the same way?

Something truly amazing happens when you do this. Other people start seeing you in a different light, and treating you in accordance with how you treat yourself!

I know it probably sounds unbelievable to think that you can change how others relate to you just by changing the way you treat yourself, but it’s true!

ALL relationships in your life are a direct reflection of your relationship with yourself.

Now, what about the absence of relationships? What if you’re still waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right to come walking into your life? What does that mean?

Usually, it means you are not open to a healthy, intimate relationship (or possibly the timing isn’t quite right yet).

For starters, ask yourself if you really believe you deserve an intimate relationship with another. Is part of you frightened about trusting again? Are you afraid of getting your heart broken? Do you distrust your ability to tell a “good one” from a “bad one”?

You may just need to do a little further exploration before you’ll know for sure why you’re blocking an intimate relationship – but a reason does exist, I assure you.

Focus on having a kind and caring relationship with yourself and this will be reflected in your external world. Try it .

 If you are interested in attending a workshop or residential week or weekend course on Relationships, in the UK or in Spain please contact me.

          Be Happy

            Grace

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