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  When you start a relationship with someone, you want it to last as long as possible, perhaps even a lifetime. Attending to your relationship fitness can help you do that. However, In order to have a strong relationship with someone, you need to have a healthy mind and body too.

How does a healthy mind and body make a relationship healthy? A healthy mind is when you have good self-esteem and confidence about who you are and what you want out of life. A healthy mind gives you a degree of independence so that you rely on yourself to get things done and don’t become co-dependent on your partner.

An unhealthy mind is when you have little or no self-esteem and no confidence in yourself or your own judgement. The lines of communication become non-existent because you withdraw into your own world and just look to your partner for guidance on your life, which puts a burden on your him or her.

An unhealthy body is when you don’t care enough about yourself to take care of your body. You smoke or drink too much and let yourself go. You eat junk food most of the time and your waistline is expanding. Since you don’t care about yourself, you don’t try to exercise or do things that would keep your heart beating soundly. Your attitude is poor, making your relationship wane because your partner no longer wants to spend any time with you. You can’t blame them because if you can’t even love you, why should s/he?

When your mind and body are in sync with one another, you can gain a positive attitude, which keeps the line of communication going with your partner. It allows you to listen to them and helps you support them whenever they need it (and vice versa). You’re more likely to do what it takes to keep that relationship in tip-top shape so that it continues to grow.

Avoid those pitfalls and take a stand on your mental and physical health. Setbacks are sure to happen, but don’t let them ruin your state of mind or affect your health for the long run.

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written by Grace \\ tags: body mind, healthy body, relationship

New relationships always seem so full of potential. But there are no guarantees that it’s destined for success. There are certain things that can provide illumination and enlightenment on whether this will be “the one” - even early in a budding romance.

Not all relationships are created equally. This is just as true for new relationships as it is for relationships that are well established and have weathered many storms. Relationships require attention on the part of both people involved in order to be successful.

Surprisingly, the sweaty palms and erratic heartbeats described in romance novels don’t predict a future of romantic bliss for years to come in most couples. In fact, the opposite is generally true. The romances that ignite the lives of those involved often consume them in the process - burning brightly but all too briefly.

Far too many relationships end as a perceived loss of love and affection - more than the typical reasons for divorce such as money, conflict, and child rearing issues. When it comes to budding and potential relationships, it’s best to not establish an all-consuming romance that’s simply impossible to maintain.

In order to accurately gauge the potential of your relationship for success, you need to be able to view it through an objective lens. You need to take a step back and separate your emotional response to your partner as well as his or her emotional response to you and see if you and your partner are a good match.

Many of the couples whom I see for coaching are so mis-matched. If only they had not been so starry eyed at the beginning they could have saved themselves a lot of heartache.

Don’t get me wrong. I think a certain amount of starry eyed is good as long as you remember to check out if you both share the same values such as Family, Growth, Success, Fitness etc. Do you both have shared aspirations? What kind of lifestyle do you each want to have? Is it the same? Do you both want to have children? Many couples are so caught up in the chemistry that they quickly move in together only to discover later that they really want different things in life.

There are no absolutes when it comes to dealing with the human heart. The heart is what must be thoroughly searched in order to discover whether or not you can really build a successful relationship that will stand the test of time. However, you need to use your head as well!

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written by Grace \\ tags: couples, Dating, Relationships, romance;relationship coaching