The reason for so many failed marriages is that a lot of people go into them without asking themselves the tough questions and because they weren’t honest with themselves or each other. No one goes into a marriage expecting it to fail.
So before you go walking down that aisle, here are some important questions that you need to ask yourself, and your lover:
- Your ability to compromise:
Do you know how to compromise? Do you always expect to get what you want? Are you willing to compromise?
Who will handle the money? What should be done with the money? Can you avoid making money matters a stressful issue?
- Plans (short and long term)
Where are your careers headed? Where do you see yourselves 10 years from now? Where do you see the marriage 15 years from now?
Do you both want them? Are they in your future? Is adoption something you would consider?
Are you both religious? Do you have conflicting religious beliefs?
Can you clearly communicate your feelings?
- Are you ready to get married?
Is it too soon? When is too soon? Are you ready for the responsibility of marriage?
- Life outside of marriage:
Do you have separate social lives? Do you get along with your lovers friends? Do you have activities outside of the marriage?
Are you happy in your jobs? Where do you see your careers in five years? If you have children who will stay home to raise them, or will you hire someone?
Can you spend the rest of your life sleeping with just one person? Are you still sexually attracted to each other? Can you make the heat last?
Are you truly committed to this person? Are you committed to make it last? Should you be committed for even considering marriage at this point in your life?
- Personal space:
Do you have things to do when your better half is busy? Are you completely dependant on your lover to keep you busy? Do you need time to just be alone sometimes?
- How to keep marriage exciting:
Do you know what it takes to keep things exciting? Are you willing to do what it takes?
- Family and friends:
Do your friends get along? Can you stand your future in-laws? Do your families get along?
- Knowing your odds:
Knowing the percentage of failed marriages, are you still willing to go for it?
Marriage should be based on love, commitment, honesty and all the important things in between. Before making your vows, make sure you are willing to keep them for life and understand that you have to work to make it last.