Relationships can be the most wonderful – or most painfull things that many of you will endure. This is particularly true when you haven’t fully recovered from your previous relationship. Some relationships are more difficult than others when it comes to recovery.
In any case starting a new relationship is never a good idea before you’ve managed to put at least some of the old hurt behind you. At the same time, you don’t want to lock yourself away from the world for months or years while you struggle to put the pieces of your heart and soul back into place.
One thing to look out for is that you aren’t setting yourself up for the typical rebound relationship. Rebound relationships are rarely healthy for either party and may leave you even more deeply wounded than before. Allowing sufficient time to pass before getting involved with another potential partner can lessen the risk of rebound fallout.
In order to move on, it is crucial to confront the past and recover from it rather than allowing it to continue controlling you. In most cases, this is much easier said than done, but it’s a pain that will clear the way for better relationships to come.
Time doesn’t heal all wounds (unfortunately neither does a box of Terrys All Gold) and there are times when it’s in your best interest to be proactive in your recovery rather than reactive to your pain.
The absolute best gift you can give yourself while recovering from a breakup and beginning a new relationship is to apply some of your time, strength, and energy into learning to love yourself again.
Discover the things you like about yourself and the world in general. Filling your life with good things will go much further for your recovery and the good of future relationships than dwelling on the failures and hurt of the past.
If you’re having trouble letting go, then you might consider Relationship Coaching or joining a support group. There’s no shame in this. Your self-esteem takes a hit when a relationship ends, particularly if it ends badly. There’s pain and doubt that weren’t there before, and sometimes it helps to be identify where you went wrong. Was it your choice of partner? Is this part of a pattern? What kind of person is the right type for you? A Coach can help you identify your core values so that you can choose a partner who is right for you next time, and also help you see yourself in a positive light and to see the world with optimism again.
If you do this, your future relationship will have a much greater opportunity to blossom and grow than if you jump in too quickly and never deal with the hurt and anger from your past.
If you find it difficult to move on Relationship Coaching can help. Contact me at email@example.com